Breathing again…

For the past several months, I have been working on forgiving my husband. I made the decision to do this because I felt tired of being angry and resentful of my life and how things turned out. I was missing my happier self, and I felt like my angry and sad self was not good [Read On]

A Cheater’s Story

This past weekend I had the pleasure of attending the “Take your life back” seminar in Orlando, Florida. It was a seminar hosted by Brian & Anne Bercht, of Passionate Life Seminars. It was an amazing, life changing experience that I’ll never forget. When I got home, my husband told me he had written something [Read On]

Beautiful Blogger Award

It was quite a surprise to find out the Melissa from God has a plan for All of us! nominated myself for the Beautiful Blogger Award. Very flattering indeed! There are a few things I have to do in order to accept this award: 1. Thank the person who nominated myself: Thank you so much [Read On]

Something to make you feel a bit better…

A fellow betrayed spouse shared this with me and I thought it hit the nail on the head, so I wanted to share it with all of you: After DDay, we take such a hit to our self-esteem, and question what it was about the other woman that was so attractive to our husbands? Why [Read On]

Lack of Perfection

For the last few weeks I’ve dug a hole and buried myself in it. It feels good. I’ve distanced myself from my husband and kids as much as possible and I’ve thought nothing about the affair.  My husband asked me a few days ago if I was okay and if I wanted to talk. My [Read On]

I know My Worth

          “What’s wrong with YOU?!” This was one of the many questions going thru my mind after finding out about the affair. Thoughts like, maybe I’m not pretty enough, smart enough, skinny enough…etc, never crossed my mind. I know my worth.  And in those dark times, which happen less and less often, I’m [Read On]

Forum for the Betrayed

Theres a new forum in town for betrayed spouses. It was created by and you can find the forum  at  There is even an section for betrayed spouses dealing with an OC.  

And sadness takes over…

I said to my hubby the other day; “I’m not so much angry anymore, I’m more sad that the OC exists.” I don’t hate the OC, I just hate what the OC represents. Over the last few years, I’ve met some women in my situation that have fully accepted the OC as their own. They [Read On]

Am I Selfish?

We see the OC at least 3-4 times a week. He lives less than 25 min away, and his daycare is actually about 5 min from our house.  When he’s here everything is fine, the kids play, my husband is happy to spend time with him and everything is good. But on the days when [Read On]

What about me?

      I think in a situation like my own, outsiders tend to forget about the wife. As soon as there is any mention of another child being involved, all the attention immediately goes towards him/her.  I remember that being the case for the first year after D-Day if  someone happened to find out about the [Read On]

The Truth Will Set You Free

One of the issues I’ve struggled with and still struggle with is opening up to family and friends about the whole affair/other child situation. Although I have a very public blog, very few of my friends or family know about it as of yet. And although both our immediate and some of our not so [Read On]

Character vs. Behavior?

It’s really easy when you’re the betrayed spouse to hold the affair over the cheating spouses head forever. Every argument or disagreement or even something that reminds you of the affair can turn into a much bigger attack against the cheating spouse. I think anyone that’s been in the situation can relate and knows exactly [Read On]

Infidelity in Cartoon

Every now and then I surf the net for some infidelity related material to enlighten me. I came across a blog called Soul Mate Shmoopies and couldn’t stop laughing at the videos this blogger has created about infidelity. I found this one particularily funny and worth watching especially if you can relate to infidelity. WH and OW: Our Love [Read On]

Consider Yourself Lucky

The other day my husband said to me; “I feel very alone.” <Cue the crickets chirping> Alone? You? What? You cheated on me remember? You were never alone, when you weren’t with me you were with her, at what point were you alone? And I’m still here! Your still not alone! These were just some [Read On]

Thanks for the support

Since I started this blog, I’ve had the privilege of meeting others dealing with infidelity and some that are not in the same situation but just want to offer some support. A couple weeks ago, Caitlin from Southern Stay-at-Home Mom asked me to write up a guest post on her blog.  Like me, she wanted to help spread the word [Read On]